How to Find a Life Partner

If you are in that stage of life where you need a relationship, a life partner, it might be the right decision to choose someone at this stage of life. Choosing a life partner can be really hectic, especially if you are suffering from gamophobia. Gamophobia, the fear of living with a partner might be triggering you to run away from relationships. It might be a cause of disturbed upbringing of a child, abusive parents, and for females mostly failure of their mother in relationships causes trauma in relationships. Such individuals should take professional help from a therapist.

8 Ways to Find a Life Partner

You can take measures to find the right partner. But before actually deciding to be involved in a relationship and understanding compatibility, you need to understand yourself too. 

Here are 8 points covered about how to choose a partner and how to make yourself ready for a relationship.

1. You Attract what you are:

Are you worried about your previous relationships? You meet with people who are toxic? Or people show affection while their love is just harming you? Definitely it is because you are attracting people just the same as you. If you are an unhealthy, broken and unhealed person, it is more likely you will get attracted towards the same people. We are identified with our social circle and surroundings. Look for what is the cause behind your completely unhealthy relationships?

You can only attract healthy positive humans, if you yourself are happy and positive. To find the right partner, you must be a healthy person on your own. Start working on your own growth and be the one whom you want to meet!

2. Understand yourself First:

Before actually showing up for a partner, you need to know and understand yourself. What are your preferences and choices of life? How do you want to live? What are your good and bad habits? How are you going to share your life with your partner? What can you forgive and what not? How many times are you able to compromise for your partner? They are just some effective measures to know your worth and statement of life. If you have a walk and talk with yourself, you will definitely realise what you are looking for in a life partner.

3.Healthy relationships take time:

Well you need to be patient and careful when you are initiating a relationship. Patience can take you to the right person. Just because your age is increasing, you are crossing your 30s, or your friends are marrying and have started their families, do not rush into a relationship. Take time to decide when you are completely healthy and ready. Haste makes waste. Usually females of Asian countries end up marrying toxic men and remain traumatised for a long time. You can be a happy partner even if you are married late but with the right person. 

4. Handle the New people in your life with Maturity:

Do not ward off the people who actually are interested in approaching you as a life partner. Be mature enough and treat people with respect and understanding. If someone from friends or family actually shows up and asks you for a date or a proposal, do not hurry, do not panic, remain calm and positively ask for some time to think.

Be cooperative and don’t disgrace people who approach you for sincere relationships. Choose wise and serious guys or girls who can be cooperative and understanding. Do not be afraid of the relationships and explain your concerns associated with the relationship. You can hang out a few times or meet at home as per your specific cultural norms.

5. A marriage is a marriage, either love or arranged! Do not fear either of them:

Understand the difference between love and arrange marriage and take it wisely. If you are interested in marriage then do not wait. You can choose a partner as arranged by your friends or family too. Love marriages usually are long termed love based and might take time too. But it is completely okay to choose a person through arranged means.

Life partnership can be discussed in a light mode with the new person and exchange of thoughts can lead to the final decision of both the partners. Emotional intimacy may follow after deciding a relationship.

6. Social Circle and Contacts:

It is natural that like dissolves like. We start identifying our favorite colors by looking at the wardrobe and we identify our habits about our preferences around us. Same goes for relationships as well. Your social circle of close people other than professional interaction, is the circle of people who are of your genre. Your friends and family that are actually near to you, are actually deciding your preferences. You may find similarities in your lots of friends. Those similarities are actually the reason they all are in your circle. Count these similarities as what you look for in a person. Look for a life partner in your social circle.

7. Dating Apps:

Dating apps may or may not work for you. Depending on the culture you live in and the culture you’re actually preferring your life partner to be from, you can use dating apps like tinder etc. However humans, in person, are completely different from messenger chats. Rather than blindly following messages, use the app for finding new people and similarities among your personalities, but do not blindly follow it. Meet and greet in real life to understand more precisely. However, completely relying on dating apps might not work for you.

8.Cultural Norms:

Depending on your culture, you might have the complete liberty of a life partner, you might be bound to traditions and customs or your family heritage when it comes to marriage. Follow your culture, and if you are an Asian, your family might be actively looking for your life partner. In western cultures, usually kids choose on their own and have a meet-up with the family later on.

Whatever your preferences about a good life partner, you have the right to express it and look out for a suitable one. Good luck with that!