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Why does my Husband Yell at Me

Marriage is a two way contract designed by a male and female partner to live and follow a happy life ahead. Both the partners contribute and compromise for the comfort and easiness of the other partner. This two sided contract strengthens the bond between both partners. Marriage demands compromise, respect and sacrifices. However with time, the coarseness of the situation might prolong the effects of uneasiness at home. Wives, being the weaker component of this relationship, might expect a lot more from their husband.

Wives are usually caretakers at home, whereas men do duty outside homes. However sometimes the frustration may prolong and result in complete cut off or exaggerated feelings. Some wives complain their husband yells at them, however there can be causes and an emotional background behind this behavior too. 

9 Possible Reasons Why the Husband Yells

Husband Yell

1.Stress and Frustration:

Husbands who work extra hours usually are stressed and frustrated by their extra work burden. The stress in this subconscious might be triggered when they come home. Such emotions need to be channeled for catharsis. If not, this might be presented as episodes of completely exaggerated feelings, resulting in chaos and yelling at home on wife, servants, house help and kids. This frustration might be prolonged and can get chronic if the cause is not sorted in a few early days.

2. Past Traumas :

Past traumas have a very huge role in a partner’s part in a relationship, especially relationships of long term like marriage etc. Husbands or wives, if any among them were neglected at an early stage of life, become later insecure broken partners. Traumas associated with childhood remain in the subconscious for long-term and affect the coming generations. Husbands who were brought up by toxic parenting or toxic mothers might dislike all women associated with him for later on. A single mishap might trigger their yelling and violence at home.

man screaming from stress

3.Poor communication skills:

If your husband and you have poor communication skills, it is more likely that your communication skills affect your life later on. Remember volcanoes do not explode abruptly. It takes years to accumulate and the same goes for relationships. Your lack of communication skills and gaps can destroy your mental peace of a relationship.

Husbands, being the physically dominant system, might express the power by raising their volume. This is the major reason for chaos among couples these days. You need to sort out everything with your husband on a table and sum up the boundaries you lack in your relationship.

4.Anger management issues:

One of the most undiagnosed causes of abrupt violence and yelling is anger management issues. It is a psychological malfunction that needs the route to be identified. Usually yelling is the outcome of frustration and stress, but anger management issues is a chronic condition where the person undergoes serious disturbed symptoms. It might arise as yelling at high pitch but later on might proceed to local and domestic violence. This needs to consult professional help such things, if left untreated might disturb a person’s personality forever.

husband is shouting at his wife

5.Drug abuse or Addiction:

Are you sure your husband is not into any addiction or drug abuse?

An unusual spike in temperamental issues usually has a very heavy background reason, usually addiction and drug abuse. This abrupt increase in yelling and violence might be because of poor psychological health, and addiction to hard drugs. Such drugs, when not available, promote frustration and take the shape of yelling and frustration. Such husbands need to be treated and sent to rehabilitation centers. Women should protect themselves from such violence by taking a little distance, before things get actually worse.

6.Lack of intimacy in the relationship:

Hate and lack of intimacy in a relationship generate violence too. Look into the history of your relationship: how were you in your early days?  Were you both a happily married couple at the beginning years of your marriage? If yes then check the history of when it started? And what triggered it? Intimacy is a two way thing. What disturbs your husband’s mood? Women who are always complaining and keep criticizing their husbands might lose the intimacy of their relationship. This can be balanced by complete understanding and ignoring your majority perk.

7.Finances and parenting issues:

Parenting disputes, workload stresses, the rising market rate of food and grocery and all the basic needs is one of the usual causes of emotional mismanagements. Have you seen your husband counting and using a calculator all the time? Low budget and issues related to parenting might provoke frustration and anger issues. Kids if left untreated might disturb the fathers. Mothers are usually more patient as compared to fathers. If the kids are the cause try communicating in a healthy environment and explain the situation with a cool temper.

8.Narcissistic partner:

Do not think negatively of your partner but one of the huge reasons, narcissism can be a reason for your partner’s violence. Men who want to be recognized as perfect, and empowered want to relieve their narcissistic mind approach by suppressing and humiliating their partners. Such men might disturb their partners when they feel low or are going through self-doubt. As per psychology, the most difficult patients are narcissistic men and borderline Personality disorder females. Such a narcissistic approach can be minimized by seeking professional aid.

Stressed couple arguing

9.Feeling threatened or Insecure:

Your husband might be threatened or when it comes to you. If he is threatened that you might leave him, this may completely disturb him for later on. Such insecurity would be popping in his mind resulting in abrupt disturbance in mood. Mood swings, violence, continuously criticizing and comparing you with other women arise when he is not feeling safe with you.

If he has any trauma associated with the past where people left him whenever needed, he might be trying to take charge of you by yelling and displaying acts of frustration. You need to make him feel safe and explain to him you will not leave him like other people who came to his life before and left him alone.

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