Qualities to Look for in your Life Partner

A life partner is your partner for life. You plan your future plans along with that one person. Either it is life goals, your future planning, the desire to visit some place, you want that one person to accompany you everywhere along with you.  Depending on the nature of the community you live in, it is evident from what your community prefers about the relationship between you and your life partner. 

Types of Relationships between Life Partners

There are different relationships between two life partners. 

Romantic Relationship:

Asians usually prefer a romantic relationship and include marriage in the romantic relationship between a man and a woman. 

Platonic Relationship:

However, sometimes it’s a platonic relationship. Western culture holds a wide variety of relationships including the non-romantic relationship. A platonic relationship is a complete non-romantic relationship, usually associated with friendship, sincerity and care among two humans.

Adoption:

Sometimes disabled or normal humans adopt children too. Sometimes two men or two women from the same gender, in a romantic relationship adopt kids, and choose to remain life partners.

5 Characteristics to Look for in your Life Partner

If you are looking for a life partner, do not worry. Here are 5 distinguishing groups of characteristics you should look for in a life partner.

1. Emotional Intimacy and Affection:

For every relationship that is outside your bloodline. Emotional intimacy leads the basis of how prolonged your life would be to achieve goals. Affection, care and love make the basis of all the beauty in a relationship.

Here are 2 basic qualities and form of care that come along with emotional intimacy:

Compassion:

Compassion is a deep form of empathy, concern and kindness. It arises with emotional intimacy. Ever heard about people who have extremely anger issues but they are so kind with loved ones? Emotional intimacy changes your emotions to the person you adore. Yeah! The old fantasy stories about the magic potion are all right. It is the love potion that brings softness in your tone toward the person you like and adore. Compassion is the most necessary part of emotional intimacy. You should have a partner with whom you have emotional intimacy so you both can be compassionate towards each other. Compassion lets go of all the huge problems in life!

Flexibility:

Flexibility comes along with emotional intimacy. You should look for a life partner who is flexible and is able to mold when needed. Rigid human nature who do not compromise cannot keep long term relationships. Rigidness on some basic disciplinary and personal life choices is a good habit, but being rigid without compromise and compassion, you may suffer and feel worn out with all the efforts you do. You should choose a partner who knows when and where to mold and where not to. Your partner should respect your compromises too! 

2. Communication Etiquettes:

Communication is one of the most necessary steps of a relationship. When two humans are living together, their mode of interaction is communication through words. What triggers a human mind is usually the selection of words by the other partner and his etiquettes. You know a person by his emotions that is usually expressed through words.

Politeness: 

No matter how much the situation becomes worse, if you are not polite in your words, it means you have to think about it. Words can break someone’s existence into pieces and shatter the love and kindness of your partner. Politeness is a natural habit and it rarely is associated with emotional intimacy. Your partner might love you a lot but his harsh nature might disturb you a lot. You should look for a life partner who is calm and respectful even when things are completely out of order and nothing is in your favor. Similarly you should try to be like one too!

Active listener:

Your partner should be expressive yet he should have listening abilities too. Imagine living with an extrovert who never stops and never listens when you want to share your mental state?

That’s definitely not how relationships work. A life partner should be one with home you do not have a competition of words but understanding. A 5 minute discussion with your partner should recharge you for the rest of the day!

3. Responsibility and Financial Support:

It is not necessary that you should choose a very rich partner who is always there to clear bills for you! Remember worth is designated by moral values, statement of life, standards and choices about life and the seriousness of life. Do not be materialistic when it comes to marrying someone with wealth. Money is a necessity to add freedom in relationships, and the freedom may bring happiness to you. You should look for how a person is serious about taking responsibility. It can be monetarily, or by other efforts. Your partner should think rich and should be brave enough to support you via all means when you need it!

4. Mentally Healthy:

You know how it feels working hard with people who are either toxic, narcissist, self-centered, or suffering from borderline Personality disorder. Mental illness of a partner will drain you for life time. If you are having intimacy for a person who is struggling with emotional disturbances like anger management issues, PTSD or bipolar make sure your partner seeks professional aid before you both finalize your life goals.

5. Source of Peace:

You know why relationships are made? To be a source of peace and happiness for each other!.

You need to be a source of peace for your life partner and vice versa! If you yourself are struggling with relationship issues, mental disturbances associated with trauma response, or your hyper independent trauma reflex is not allowing you to sit in a relationship, discuss this on table with the partner with whom you want to initiate your life decisions! Trust is the basic key of a relationship. Explain your insecurities and how it might affect your partner. Keep taking your psychological sessions and do not compromise on peace. Your mental peace and your partner’s mental peace.

Last but not the least, if you are finding it hard to find such a life partner, be one! Who knows someone’s looking for the same qualities and end up meeting you!