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Charcteristics of a Good Husband

A good husband is not only a supportive partner, but also a friend. A good husband has some distinguishing characteristics that include basic qualities, including being protective, caring, supportive and polite attitude towards his wife and household chores. If you are a husband, and you wonder why my wife is yelling, you need to recheck your behavior towards your partner and family. This will add beauty in your relationships.

9 Traits of a Good Husband

Here are 9 qualities of a good husband that you should rearrange in your personality in order to make your marriage life easier and beautiful without conflicts and mismanagement:

Good husband

1. Supportive  and collaborative:

A good husband is supportive and collaborative. He tries to support his wife and family against all the odds. Such support might be against the work load or family mismanagement, or the in-laws. Usually in joint families, husbands are held accountable for what their wives do. Such husbands either are very impulsive, ignoring the other side of the story, and react violently and aggressively. Supportive husbands do not do that. They are patient. They step back and patiently discuss the matter in an understanding environment and collaborate as needed. You need to control your nerves.

2. Family Oriented:

Good husbands are family oriented. They prioritize family over their other professional works. Remember, a good husband is not a very rich person. He needs to be supportive and family oriented. Wealth and happiness of a family is not associated when the husband is just a robot. Good husbands balance between work and personal life. He is involved in the life of all the members and rather than being frustrated at work, good husbands channel their emotions and try to arrive happy at home. If not happy, at least do not vent your stormy reactions at home. Rather than that, be polite. Manage home routine by being honest and with a polite and kind reaction.

3. Apologizing:

man apologizing

If you are a husband worrying why your wife is always complaining to you about your actions or emotions, step back and reconsider your last few month schedule. What changed your natural politeness? Find the trigger and accept it. Acceptance is one of the most important necessary steps in a relationship. Accept your faults and apologize. Relationships need a two way communication and explanation of thoughts and interpretation. Apologies do not lower a person’s grace, instead it increases your love and respect in a relationship.

4. Accept rather than Changing your Spouse for you:

Are you trying to adjust your wife according to your preferences? 

Remember your wife is not a toy or a robot. She is a human with her choices, her preferences, and abilities to live a life as per her own choices. If you are trying to adjust her or program her as your preferences, that is of course not possible. You need to accept her as a human. She cannot be customized on your request. Accept her for being her. A good husband and a good wife, both contribute into relationships, and explain their behaviors together. Rather than forcing each other, you both need to accept each other as partners and humans.

5. Compromises and Commitments:

Compromises and commitments are necessary for a relationship. You need to make a compromise as per your wife’s nature and vice versa.  A good husband makes effective compromises at the low days of his family. Especially when your wife is disturbed psychologically, or has mood swings due to shifts in the menstrual cycle. Similarly, you need to take care of your wife during her pregnancy, the most crucial time in a woman’s life. Such compromises add beauty in relationships. You need to know that beforehand and should allow yourself to mold accordingly.

6. Trustworthy and should appreciate his wife efforts:

loving couple

A good husband is usually trustworthy. You need to be trustworthy when your wife is actually allowing you to be honest with her. Trust is earn in a long time. The relationship between a husband and wife usually takes up lots of external pressures to establish a relationship that is not judgemental. Husbands who are skeptical in nature rarely build quality relationships. You need to hang out and appreciate your wife’s efforts for you and your family. As a family you should keep the decorum to achieve a good stable family environment.

7. Communicative:

Solving daily life conflicts becomes easier when you and your wife are communicative. You share everything and expect the other person to share too.  No matter how hard it is to face the bitter truth, or the other person’s words, a good husband is capable of handling, accepting and forgiving during family discussion time. Communications add beauty to relationships and you need to figure this out as a family. Transparency matters a lot!

8. A good husband is romantic too!

Romantic couple

Remember you need to express your love for your wife and family through your actions too. The beauty of families lies in expression of speech, physical and verbal affection, and psychological intimacy. Good husbands bring flowers when back from work. Treat their wives as important humans of their life. Such treatment provokes your child’s natural thinking of love and affection and they turn into secure spouses later on in their life. Bring your wife gifts when back from work, say good evening with a smile and gratitude for your partner and your kids will follow the same steps! They will respect and love their mother a lot!

9. Financial support:

Husbands should not only be emotional and physically supportive but financial support is also the most necessary step of a relationship. In Asian families, where men are the caretakers, they take the responsibility of the whole family. You, as a husband, need to take such responsibility. If your wife is a working woman, you both should figure out this together and do accounts together. Such support prevents either of the partners from financial crisis and stress. Do not burden your wife with that. Share responsibilities and accounts with your wife!

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