Why a Narcissist won’t Divorce You
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a psychological disorder that comes with extreme grandiosity, self-obsession and the superiority complex. A narcissist can be very toxic depending on the type of relationship you share with him. Similarly, narcissistic minds can disturb your self-confidence and their presence might make you question your own existence a great deal. While working in a relationship with your narcissistic partner, you might consider it very hard to work out. Similarly if you see signs and symptoms of narcissism in someone around you, try to limit yourself by drawing boundaries.
Narcissists are very grandiose and find it very hard to maintain a relationship smoothly. A narcissistic wife, or a husband can trigger your mechanisms by constantly bullying you and using your emotions and energy as their fuel to boost up their egos.
In the starting days of a marital relationship, you might not consider it an abnormality, but later on questions arise like, am I married to a narcissist?
Similarly Narcissism is not bounded to age or gender. It is more possible that you have a narcissistic husband. Similarly, in relationships besides romantic relationships, your children, usually daughters can be narcissistic. Siblings who are narcissistic, usually narcissistic sisters, make family reunions very difficult.
A NARCISSIST WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL BUT WON’T DIVORCE YOU:
Definitely it might be disturbing to hear. A partner would not divorce you. Despite all the complaints, and all the ambiguities of your relationship, it is possible that your partner does not want to get rid of you.
Here are 6 huge reasons, for which your partner wants to keep you in his/her life:
1. NARCISSISTS FEED ON THEIR PARTNER’S SELF RESPECT:
Have you ever felt disgraced by your partner? How many times has he/she humiliated you just because you are not the right person according to them anymore? The number of times they make you feel unwanted, this is their real need to feed on your emotions. Your lack of positivity and submission to the toxicity triggers their emotions and are ego boosters.
By divorcing you, they might lose a prey who provides them with the food to work on. Usually a they lacks emotional intelligence and empathy, they are dry in speech and expression and expect someone to understand their situation.
2. ALWYAS WANTS SOMEONE TO RULE ON:
Imagine a king without a country and public to rule on!
That is what happens when a narcissist does not have someone around to rule on. They hate this situation where they are alone and have no one to be ruled. A narcissistic partner will not divorce you because you are the right prey for them! Whatever happens, it is usually the situation where they need their partner’s energy. This is what the real toxicity is!
You might feel absurd, but usually it is their need to make you feel low and unwanted. Divorcing you could mean the end of their rule. This is against their control and power. You are giving your narcissistic partner control or power over you!
3. FEAR OF BEING ALONE!
No matter how hard, brave, and extraordinary a narcissist tries to appear, deep inside, they fear a lot to be alone. Actually they are deep cowards who rarely have the urge to live alone. How can they live alone by divorcing their partners? Without the food for their egos, control and power, narcissistic partners can be deprived of their kingdom.
This disorder is associated with the need of the audience to praise and worship the narcissistic partner. Once lost, this can be very disturbing when there is no audience to clap, approve or admire.
4. FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE:
Well one of the general reasons that they do not want to end their relationship is because they need financial assistance to work on. Sometimes it is because they are well aware of your need in their life too. They fear divorce and separation because being alone is what makes them concerned about not finding someone like you again. If they do find one, it is not necessary that they will stay in such a relationship for a long time.
Thus they might lose their provider and financial assistance for your efforts. Rather than fearing such a narcissist, you need to understand how to stop being manipulated by such a partner.
5. ALWAYS AFRAID OF LOSING THE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT YOU ARE PROVIDING:
If you are in a relationship where your partner is constantly decreasing your self-worth, it is more likely that they are afraid of losing you. By reassuring you that you are just not the right person, they are assuring you their own importance in your life. If your partner constantly tells you that, “you should be thankful for having me in your life” or “You will never find someone as perfect as me.” They are trying to emotionally handicap you by destroying your self-worth.
Rather than being annoyed and depressed for their comments, you need to work on your self-esteem as well. However, by divorcing you it is common that they are afraid they will not find anyone like you.
6. FEAR OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE DIVORCE:
No matter how the narcissists pretend that they are not favouring you for not divorcing you, they are deep inside fearing the consequences of divorce. Divorce is not only a separation, but it requires a joint decision of how both of the partners will work after separation. From sharing responsibilities, to letting go of each other requires energy and willpower. Similarly, custody of the children, leaving the comfort zone, changing the lifestyle, this app requires courage that they lack.
Similarly, choice of separation needs a legit reason. Your partner might not have a single serious reason to divorce you, because you are continuously trying to be more than perfect at things your narcissistic partner is complaining about a lot.
